How can a garden teach us to live? Overcome and avoid frustration
We want to continue talking about the values that, as parents, we can transmit to our children. In previous publications, we talked about the value of success in building self-esteem and the values of responsibility, perseverance and patience that we can teach through cultivation. Here, we will talk about how to face things that do not go as we expected, we will talk about frustration.
Tolerance to frustration
When a crop doesn’t turn out well and isn’t what we expected when our expectations aren’t met we feel frustrated. It is a good thing that children develop a certain tolerance for frustration. Even though we have tried (through responsibility, perseverance and patience) and try to foresee any misfortune, an infection in our seedlings, a frost or an unexpected hailstorm can ruin our harvest.
This, in life, just happens and these experiences will help our children to accept that there will be situations that will escape our control and that the real value is in the work we have done. We must always value the effort much more than the result. We have to make an effort to do what is in our hand but there will be misfortunes that are very difficult to anticipate. What will be of great value for the development of our children is that in such a situation we do with them the exercise of asking ourselves, what can we do so that this does not happen again?
Analyzing with them what is in our hand will help them develop the very important cognitive function of planning. In short, we will be helping them to make decisions: we give them the ability to anticipate, to be creative evoking different strategies for solving the problem and to be able to finally choose the option that they believe is most likely to succeed. This decision-making process will be useful in many moments of their lives and it is important that they are aware of how to use it.
Coping with mistakes and unexpected events is coping with frustration.
Even if you follow all the growing instructions, sometimes you don’t get the success you expected. Common errors like the excessive solar incidence on the containers of culture (flowerpots, gardeners, tables of culture, etc…) that makes that the roots die because of the high temperatures, or problems with the quantity of water of irrigation that we apply,
sometimes very sometimes little, causing a hydric stress to the plant that can finish with it. These are cases that it is important to live them and face them together with our children, giving them protagonism when thinking about the solution to the problem.
This direct implication in the problem and in its resolution, makes the child understand that sometimes things do not happen as we expect them to happen and that he learns to know how to find an alternative or solution to overcome unforeseen events. In short, normal situations that can arise in any cultivation space will help the child to become aware of reality and to develop in it with more security and confidence.